Na Chahti Pyar

Happy Women's Day to All Gorgeous-Heart Ladies. 

May Every Day Remains Women's Day In terms of Respect and Dignity.

(I've received This Poem Few Years Back From a Female Friend, Who Was at Great Pain of Life.)
(Regret, I Coundn't Help Her, Dedicating This to All Loving, Caring n Great Persona Women.)


Nahin socha tha kabhi
aisi bhi hoti hai zindagi
itni anchahi, itni parayi
aisa kya gunaha kiya maine


jo tune khuda ye saaja di
jinda hu par mar chuki hu
kyoun aisi taasir di
samaz na sake jinhe koi


kyoun aise jajbat diye
banaya mujhe itna nazuk dil
aur fir itne dard diye
itne kante hai pass mare


ki fool bhi ab chubne lage
itni nafrato ne gher rakha hai
ki jaajbat mere marne lage
kahate hai kise khushi


ye naam bhi main ab bhool chuki
itne pather mare duniya ne
har hasrat ab tut chuki
mat karo ab baaten mujse


pream, sukoun, aur chahato ki
mat karo waqt apna barbad
koi umeed nahin ab baaki
lashain nahin kiya karti pyar


na chahti pyar.

Is keeping the head balanced a difficult task?

With brains, human is considered to be the most advance and enhanced creation of nature. Then why on the crucial occasion in our life, our brain raise its hands and decline to perform the best task it is given, to think in the best interest of one’s self?

I guess psychologist and neurologist may not have the perfect answer and mere technical reply could be there. There is one primary funda in management “Right man on the Right Place”. It says that a right person must be in the position to take critical decision when in needed to be taken in the best interest of the organization. Then I would like to add something in it, “Right man on the Right Place” and “Right decision at the Right Time”

I have often observed that well thought out strategy from the very intelligent and genius person has gone overwhelmingly and miserably wrong. Many people, so prefect in there planning, strategize the rule book efforts; go entirely wrong in implementing the efforts to achieve the desired results. I am just clueless about the reasons push man on back foot in life.

Well many will give me simple logic, which is also known to me as well, “Man Proposed and God Disposed” Well if everything is pre-decided then what the hell we are doing here? One would say we are merely following the instructions from the super destiny. If that so why brain given to us? Well no we are not here to mere perform the orders; we all are here to achieve something or the others on our own. We are here with some purpose, not to be puppet.

Few days back I had a very heated debate with one on my friend. We both were contradicting our own statements as well as each others. His was the argument that man is really capable of keeping his head balance and on the crucial time he must show maturity to take right decisions in life to give best shape to the life. And he believes in destiny, against of his own thoughts.

Mine was the diagonal opposite view. I claimed, normally human run by his sub-consciousness, conscious mind comes only into action when emergency arises. Normal functions of life are pre-defined by us, while in extreme situation, we don’t have much time to think and react and we fall in a trap. My friend asked me, “Do you believe in God?” I promptly replied negatively.

Well my point is not related to emergency situation life face. When we are given good span of time to think out strategies to get rid of the problems of the life, why we don’t take those decision which are beneficial to our own self as well as everyone around us. We don’t choose the best possible option, lying in front of us. My question is what stopping us to go forward and choose the best way ahead for our own self. Which are those factors, simply stagnant our brain function and lead us to most devastating path?

Two long debates jounced me, completely shaken me up last week. How we social animals can be broken into the pieces. How our own, whom we trust most and give string of our life, turn out to be the killer or our own dreams and existence. Yeah I am talking about relationships.

Yesterday, during a lunch time, my friend asked me the question. “Where do you see Indian society in next 20 years?” I was surprised, as question came out of nowhere. Didn’t know what to answer. I said really I don’t know where Indian society will be standing in next 20 years, but something is there which is scaring me. This development, which was revealed to me in 2003-’04 while I was doing ma journalism is matter of real concern for this nation. The Individualism in Indian youth is what making me jittery. I remember while I was preparing my presentation for the General Election 2004, and was thinking about the socio-political structure of Indian democracy and something struck to me, Disinterest of Indian youth towards politics. Certainly I realized what this phenomenon is? I was disconcerted by knowing the fact that this development is not good sign for any society

Where is the Indian?

An American visited India and went back to America
Where he met his Indian friend who asked him
How did u find my Country
The American said it is a great country
With solid ancient history
And immensely rich with natural resources.
The Indian friend then asked.
How did u find Indians??

Indians??
Who Indians??
I didn't find or met a single Indian there in India.

What nonsense??
Who else could u met in India then??
The American said..
In Kashmir I met a Kashmiri
In Punjab a Panjabi
In Bihar, Maharastra, Rajasthan, Bengal, Tamil Nadu, Kerala
Bihari, Marathi, Marwadi, Bengali, Tamilian, Malayali

Then i met
A Hindu,
A Muslim,
A Christian,
A Jain,
A Buddhist

And many many many more
But not a single Indian did i meet

Think how serious this joke is..
The day would not be far off when indeed we would
Become a collection of nation states as some
Regional anti-national politicians want...
Fight back -
Always say i am Indian
Jai hind

An Average Indian Fights Never Ending Battle

An Average Indian Fights

Never Ending Battle

Average Indian is pissed off, completely distressed and clueless about security and survival about life. It’s a mammoth task every Indian takes on hand every day to keep his or her face smiling and happy, finding one’s own self among the political turbulences, economical imbalances, commodities’ price rise, and terror attacks from internal as well external forces, unemployment and many other churning issues. Worst of all is Indian vote bank politics.

Man on street, once happy from the growth rate tables and fly high share index, is in disarray today, embattling his every day routine to meet ends of life. The gross Indian domestic situation is tantamount to political catastrophe, which has made an Indian Anti-Politics. The two major Indian political parties have changed the basic definition of Politics.

Answer before Question:

The question which making rounds in my mind is where this situation is leading towards? The dissatisfaction and frustration, an average Indian goes through daily think me of very famous word of my favorite novel, “Mutiny”. The idea of revolution itself is horrible and terrifying, since it includes lots of violence and blood bath. Seems Congress and BJP are not reading thing correctly and believing the historical fact that an average Indian doesn’t believe in collective violence.

Here they go wrong, short sightedness of both political parties is paving the way for an Indian to go way extreme to meet his ends to survive. Almost every Indian corner has certain groups active, which are involved in some or the other kind of movement to achieve their righteous share of recourses. Naxalism across 13 states, Maoism in north east, Bodo & Naga Movement, ULFA in Assam, Freedom Movement in Kashmir all have started with retard against the apathy of state Govt. and due to ignorance of Govt. of India.

Naxals: Indians or Terrorists?

I saw many people have extreme views against Naxals and Maos, so do I. the basic question remains unanswered in my mind is how they have come a long way to reach to the 13 states across the nation and making huge impact on people of India and challenging the state administration every now and then? If anyone could be hold responsible for keeping millions of lives on stake and killings of thousands every year, its Congress policy, and ignorance of the respective state governments along with Left Parties in West Bengal.

I believe they must be given one single chance to come to the terms and table of talks with firm, action pack warning of repercussion for not cooperating in finding peaceful resolution. As everyone suggests, Govt. should take strong steps to curb the maniac. Many would support the Shrilankan way as they got rid of LTTE by fighting internal war. The efforts of Union Home Minister are falling short of action. Balancing act that P.Chidambaram is busy with between minimizing the Naxal impact and appeasing the local political parties to grab the power in the state. I don’t see coming any hard steps from GOI and situation will persist as long as Congress is in power.

Cross Border Activism:

Seems neither BJP nor Congress is more concern about the Cross Border Terrorism. Though only single incident took place on Feb 13 recently in past 14 months. It is certainly matter of concern when the GOI assured Apex court of full proof security measures to avoid the events like 26/11. My understanding of diplomacy says India is exactly doing like a doctor’s order while supporting US efforts to eliminate the terror groups and their establishment as well their monetary n weaponry recourses. US seem slowly but surely moving forward in creating another Iraq in neighborhood.

Fascination of Pakistan in Indian society is at the extreme peak. We must forget Pakistan as a nation now and only should remember it as a bunch of some criminals will soon be eliminated. In a present scenario major economical as well as territorial threat is coming from east. Though it doesn’t seem dangerous at present, India must keep China in check with extremely active diplomacy.

The Real Concern: Internal Extremism:

Something very serious struck my mind while I was having a debate with so called right wing people. The vehemence they had in their voice and the hell bent approach they are adapted to made me mesmerized. The biggest threat I saw here. The frustration, dissatisfaction and disappointment towards Indian Politics are serious concern.

Extremism of every kind will not only dent the Indian image but also will severely affect the growth engine of the nation. If some Muslim Extremists are helping anti-national elements to create social and economical discrepancy in India, the Hindu extremists seems spreading the hatred against other communities. Be it Muslim or Hindu, need to reckon the fact that the extreme mindset has brought the Pakistan on the verge of extinction. This kind of extremism will hurt Indian civilian society more rigorously than anything else.

Scrapping sec 370 from Kashmir, going on war against Naxals and Maoist without checking other alternatives, driving away Muslims from India are not the options one must think about. These so called nationalists are indeed breaking the very fabrics of the Indian culture and society. Nothing wrong in supporting any political party, but without keeping national interests at heart one must not keep the interests of political party at the top of the list.

Anticipated Change Untouched by Political Parties:

There is no question mark that Congress policies and way of functioning is certainly not the option for this nation, not even softy-chocolaty Rahul Gandhi, if he don’t get mature with the time. Pro-people approach and liberal policies are requirement of the time. BJP have guts and capacity to deliver on that front, if only they stop infighting and get rid of historical ideological baggage. At the same point of time BJP has to break free from so called Hindus and got to take more global and conclusive approach to get back to the power.

The way congress party functions and plays the game of cheap politics adopting the “Divide & Rule” policy between communities and cultures certainly going to frustrate the whole population. Muslim appeasement of Congress is the real reason of Hindu extremism and not BJP. BJP has to include Muslims in their development agenda and congress must stop use of its unprincipled means to weaken the Indian political system and functioning.

The Final Solution: Mutiny?

At least at present neither BJP nor Congress seems going to change anything as far as there (non) ideologies are concern. Doesn’t look like they are also going to change the way both party think and act. Like my favorite novel reads the line “This is not going to stay long, everything will vanish, and new world will take shape.” Here too, seems present India is moving forward to its first ever mutiny of independence era to bring about radical changes in society, political system and mindset of the people.

Battle Lines are Drawn

It was 0230 hrs in the wee hours of Wednesday morning, when I and my friend were going back to home from the office. Road was empty and our autowala was driving with high speed after having couple of pegs of country wine.

My eyes suddenly got lit up, both sides of the road was decorated with sparkling fancy lights.  As I was in a very light mood as told my friend that it seemed like a set of the movie of Mr. Raj Kapoor in the night. He responded with laughter that yeah Raj Kapoor, the greatest Show man of Hindi Cinema. (Guys stop calling it Bollywood, don’t try to be identical, we are unique.) I nodded my head and said yeah that place is empty after his demise. Many directors have been trying to grab the position but none succeeded.

My friend counter attracted me and arguably told me that I was wrong that place was filled then.

He continued, “May be none of the director is able to do so, but the place is not empty after 2002.”

I started thinking, if not director then who else can fill the place? And then suddenly realize what he was referring to. Those fancy lights on both the side of the road.

No it wasn’t for any marriage reception or for any other religious procession. These decorations were meant for the inauguration of the new Police Station. That surprised me. But then why not? After all this is the main Police Station of the constituency that belongs to none other than the Chief Minister of Gujarat, Mr. Narendra Mody.

Well neither those lightings not police station is at the heart of the subject. Being a political journo I am certainly going to talk about politics only.

It was beginning of the winter in Nov. 2007 when I speculated that soon after the Gujarat Assembly Election-which was in Dec. 2007- Narendra Mody will be shifted to Delhi. Let me say technically I was wrong, as he is still there where he was. Well its different thing that he has become stronger and taller leader for India in BJP.

Its hard earned reputation he is having. It’s not mere a co-incident that today every corner of Gujarat is flourishing with development and state itself seems like, become a heart of India. It’s his development agenda which has put Gujarat on high growth path. 3rd consecutive victory in Assembly poll helped him gain the status he is having today. I don’t know what others are having in their mind about MR Mody, but ask any Gujarati, you will have solution of your beliefs. After Gujarat poll, many political commentators started spreading rumors that now he has become as taller as L K Advani and he is contender for the Prime Minister ship. That was an effort had gone in vain was made by few congress backed TV journalists to create a rift within the BJP.

Guys, I am really faded up with these ready-to-die politicians. Aren’t you? I mean as we say in Hindi, “ek pair kabar me he fir bhi kursi chhut-ti nahi”. I have a dream. It’s a long awaited desire in me. I really wanna see this desire come true in this very election.

I really don’t wanna see the political strangle between Mrs. Sonia Gandhi and L K Advani. I wanna fresh faces and young boiling blood – like I have – to see at loggerhead. And what batter alternative we can have then his election will politically be fought between Mr. cool and confident Mr. Rahul Gandhi, the face of young, enthusiastic and exuberant India, and relatively young and face of a new developed India Mr. Narendra Mody. This is much awaited political battle I really wanna see this election.

As always, most revered and respectful, and of course knowledgeable too, political experts are ready to face another defeat. Normally they go wrong during the pre-poll and post-poll analyses, but as this time Government of India has banned any kind of speculation on election, they have started making noise long before election. Its 3more months to go before India will go into the election frame. Those have started calling this May 2009 poll, uninteresting, dry and unproductive election, and eventless election. As if they have result chart in their hand and they have already gauge the mood of the electoral India.

Well, let them talk “yes None Sense” things. I am excited, elated and joyful knowing the fact that battle line are already drawn underneath my feet, Seems like at the door steps. I am not intended to prove those political experts wrong but I can see that even though elections are relatively away, Soil of Gujarat is becoming battle filed for the Indian Politics, initially.

Rallies, right into the kingdom of Narendra Mody, under his Nose in Ahmedabad by Rahul Gandhi is a proof that Rahul is intended to create a dent in BJP fort. 3 day trip to cover almost the whole Gujarat, is a clear sign that this political fight is not for a time being but a prolong one. Yesterday was women “sam-melan” organized by the BJP. Today its inauguration of the police station. This all are ways to tackle the “Rahul effect” Gujarat.

Frequent visit of Rahul Gandhi can’t be politically tolerated by Narendra Mody, so certainly he is going to try and curb the impact and will throw salvos every now and then on this new Gandhi, as he did jus yesterday calling him “a boy with silver spoon” in his mouth can’t understand the way of grass root workers of BJP.

This is my dream to see these two completely different characters of Indian politics at each other’s loggerhead rather than Mrs. Gandhi and L K Advani. So guys wait and watch these politicians are going to prove their commentators again wrong. But guys rests assure neither these politicians nor those commentators going to design this election. We the people are going to make it interesting and worthy.

We are going to determine the future of this nation and we have the opportunity this time around to make it count. You choose Rahul or Mody, doesn’t matter, but you go for a vote, a thoughtful vote is what important, not just sake for the vote.

Let’s make this opportunity a worthy exercise for the nation for the batter future.

New Beginning

Golden Run has come to an end. Reality is embarrassing the sky flyers of the Info. Tech. Industry.

One of the most developed and hyped sector of dream India is coming to the terms of the realism and economical doctrine. One of the first industries, in India to get the rich chunk of the government policies after India opened the doors for the foreign players to do the business in India. It has evolved and got enriched with the time in last 10 years; consider being a golden era for the IT sector. It was Golden run for industry as well as for those employees of the industry, who call them the most able, potent and skilled people in India.

I am sure none of the IT guy would know the principles of economics, the same time IT companies too, might forget the rules of economics. I may sound little annoyed or jealous on IT field, but that’s not the fact. I am not intent so sound pessimistic. I may be wrong, I am just trying to figure out the reality of IT sector and attitude of those are working in the sector.

Along with those skilled and multitasking experts, large Number of IT HELPERS were also flying high. During the golden era, lot many colleges across the nation popped up offering any damn course in IT, making everyone highly skilled and talented IT biggies. We may forget the principles of trade and business cant. No private sector In India has gone without any correction. Only public sector can flourish without worries as they need not to think about income, revenue and costing. For It was a rich and prosperous evolvement from the scratch.

Every private sector has to go through some kind of correction after certain span of time. For me it’s high time in IT sector as well. As long as I understand the international trade and economics, IT sector is less affected by economical slow down worldwide, but more by much awaited correction. People in IT were in kind of illusive mindset that no one can really hamper their rally. Now they are being brought to the reality by slowdown and simple economics. Economy may be simple, as it seems certainly not smoother one.

What you think Industry doesn’t have the jobs? They do. Certainly they do. IBM just offered their American staff to join Indian Units. Means Indian IT still providing jobs, but to whom? Certainly not for those who were working in the industry as an IT HELPERs. Many friends of mine have lost their jobs otherwise on the verge of losing it. I always have heard them taking about one thing. It’s not my words, words from ITens Only. IT companies have only 30% of staff worthy and rest eating fruit of self developed IT sector. Only 30% are the real assets for the industry and rest getting salary for surfing social network sites and listening to the songs.

What else can u expect in such a situation? Cost cutting is the reality now in IT. IT companies have to lay off unnecessary burden and only need to reward who are the real assets for the company.

As soon as I wake up in the morning on Friday, the last working day, my eyes got wide open and stand still. All my 4 friends were planning to go to Goa. It was surprised to me. Goa, in this season? Are they going crazy?

No they were not. The plan they have made out of the given situation to laugh at the circumstances, they are getting into. One has already lost the job and another one is going to be unemployed next month. Another 2 are planning to change the company as they are not getting good salary from the company. That's where I am concerned, their attitude.

I was talking to one of the senior and very experienced guy, working in the IT sector in UK. When i asked him about his opinion on IT Industry as a whole and Indian IT sector in particular, he echoed my sentiments. He told me that IT people in India were always over paid, and that had made them more greedy to demand more without delivering the goods. Unduly hype was given to the industry as well as the people working in it.

This is where I am concerned. The attitude of ma fallow Indians working in the IT sector, still flying high. One of my friends just gets the job after 3 months of unemployment with decent package. He left the job in just 2 days, 'Coz Company is not good. After 2 years of experience in smaller companies he want job that can offer him Lac Rs. per month.

Hundred of examples of same kind are available in front of me. I know everyone is not the same and may be in some cases potential people may have lost the job or on the verge of, but guys we need to look at the present scenario which is not conducive to make demands.

Experts are saying that because of the worldwide slow down, it has become more chipper to work with Indian IT firms and that’s why more and more work is coming to India. Company like IBM has offered their North American Employees to work in India and Other South East Asian countries. It shows that work is there and increasing with slow pace, but why no new employment in the sector? Coz companies have already people in excess, and under the cost cutting scenario they are going to lay off more IT helpers, as they are merely burden on the firm.

You may have skills but you have to respect the situation and have to move according to its demand. Compromise with the package and other facilities will make your place sure sooner or later, or else Sector itself will compromise with you and move ahead without you. IT firms do have limited requirement but for those who are multitasking and not mere an IT helpers.

Don’t let yourself down, you have played big role in making Dream India, reality for us, and you again going to play the same role for us. It’s about time, which demands patience and balance head on shoulder from us. You still have lots of work to do to construct new progressive Indian society and certainly for our progress. You are still good enough, don’t doubt yourself, you along with others going to play a crucial role to build new world for us. What we need is……..

Just little wisdom and future belongs us…………INDIA.

Human Unhumaned

I am not surprised if experts are calling it a day for the mankind on the earth. They may have science at their disposal to prove the facts, I have some spiritual and emotional reasons to feel like man kind is moving towards it end.

I have hobby to get into the minds of as many as people possible. Huge curiosity I have in my mind to know what and how people think about different issues and how they respond and react to the situation arise to them or to others. Being in media, I normally get the chance to many people in a single day I never met before and if I am not working then I am on the net to talk to friends and other random people.

Be it teenager, youth or oldie, in India favorite topic of chit chatting is love and affairs related to it. Another one issue I have seen is day to day school college or office affairs we normally use to talk with people, we call them net friends.

If I cumulate my observations along with other’s accounts I get from various kind of people about their life, findings of my observations are horrifying. It makes me think of what kinda world we are living in where every human being is not just playing with emotions of others but also hiding him or herself from his or her own existence. S/he not only playing with others sentiments but also putting him or herself into the psychological problems while slipping into the virtual world, where reality is far more illusive and foggy happiness takes control of a human life and unknowingly we completely isolate ourselves from the rest of the world.

I am writing this out of pain. The kind of experiences I am listening from the people is making me feeling like I am living in alien’s world where emotions are museum element.
Just month back one of my friend committed suicide because of not getting the person in life he wanted. Another friend of mine is getting separated with her husband after 10 years of married life. Reason: they don’t love each other now. One friend of mine is getting back to her husband coz she doesn’t have any other choice and need to survive.

It hurts. The only question comes to my mind is why we have become so insensible and insensitive, completely emotionless. Why we don’t value the human life of others and our own as well. When you ask the person, what is the most valuable thing in your life, what you want from the life? Instantly reply comes, LOVE.

I have seen people talking on phone, net or in person for so many hours about concept of love of their life. I have heard people telling the only thing they want in life and they value is nothing but love. When actually it enters in life from one direction I have seen people looking in other direction for batter option without knowing the fact that love doesn’t have alternatives. Most of the time we spent in talking about values of love and rest of the things are really immaterial to us, and when it struck we judge them in terms of external beauty and value it in terms of monitory gains.

Lot many people have tried to make me understand that this is the rule of life, this is the way how life goes, as if I don’t know. This is the thing we human need to understand that human life is more valuable then anything else in the world and only thing which helps us survive is nothing but a love, no matter from where it comes. One of my friend aged 42, have been trying to find love of her life since her younger days, till today it has eluded her. She has almost lost the control of her life.

We need to understand that if we are getting blind love from someone we must not lose out on them. We have developed the habit of asking more then what we are getting. When we will understand that external beauty will fad soon, and only internal emotions and feelings will make you survive in most difficult situation of life. Otherwise your own life will become piece of joke in your own eyes and when you look back at your life, you will only count what you have lost in life and gains will be invisible. In that situation we start blaming the destiny. Let me assure you it’s not the destiny but your own decisions have made you what you are.

We have never learnt from the mistakes been done by others. We may have cases life those in our own family still we close our life towards reality of life n take decision to compromise our life and love for the sake of beauty and money. This grip of materialistic world need to be loosened up otherwise we, man kind lose its own existence very soon………and extremist person like me will say let the man kind vanish on the earth and let the Adam and Eve to start back for us from where they had left so many years ago. Not for the individual, reincarnation is required for the earth.